A Midlife Crisis is something many people have heard about, often joked about or misunderstood, but it’s a very real and deeply human experience that can affect both men and women. Typically emerging somewhere between the ages of 40 and 60, it can be a time of reflection, restlessness, and questioning.
For some women, this period might present as quiet introspection, taking stock of life, family, and purpose. For many men, however, a midlife crisis can feel more confronting and confusing. It’s not just a passing mood; it can stir up deep emotional unease and lead to some pretty big questions about identity, purpose, and what’s next.
Common Signs of a Midlife Crisis in Men
Recognising the signs early can make a big difference in how you handle them. Some of the most common indicators include:
- Feeling dissatisfied with your career, marriage, or health
- A sense that time is running out and that major life changes need to happen quickly
- Loss of energy or stamina, this is not just always around getting older
- Growing restlessness about changes in your appearance or ageing
- Making impulsive or unusual decisions, like starting an affair or seeking out risky or thrilling experiences (think Motorbike or Sportscar)
- Feelings of depression, anxiety, or even suicidal thoughts
- Persistent pessimism or hopelessness about the future
- Insomnia or disrupted sleep patterns
- A longing for the “good old days” or deep feelings of nostalgia
Whether you view this as a midlife crisis or a midlife awakening really depends on your perspective. Some see it as an opportunity for growth, a chance to reassess what truly matters. Others experience it as a painful, confusing chapter that shakes their sense of self.
Searching for Meaning Beyond Roles and Responsibilities
For many men, the midlife years bring an urge to rediscover who they are beyond being a husband, father, or professional. It’s a search for renewed purpose and meaning — but that journey can feel isolating.
The question then becomes: what do you do with all these feelings?
It’s common for men to keep these emotions bottled up. Often, there’s fear around opening up to a partner, worry about not being understood, feeling ashamed, or believing they “should have it all together” by now. There might also be concerns about causing distress or tension in their relationship.
But here’s the truth: these feelings are far more common than most men realise, and they don’t mean you’ve failed. They mean you’re human.
Counselling in Frankston – Finding a Way Forward
As someone who has personally experienced some of these emotions, I know first-hand how valuable it can be to seek professional counselling during a midlife crisis. Speaking with a therapist gives you the chance to unpack your thoughts in a safe, supportive environment, without judgment or expectation.
Therapy can help you:
- Make sense of your emotions and the changes you’re feeling
- Reconnect with your values and goals
- Find practical ways to manage stress, anxiety, and uncertainty
- Strengthen relationships and communication
- Rediscover purpose and direction for this next stage of life
Here at Watkins Therapy Group Frankston, we work with men across the Mornington Peninsula and beyond who are navigating midlife transitions. Whether it’s through in-person sessions or telehealth appointments, we’re here to help you make sense of what you’re going through and move forward with clarity and confidence.
You Don’t Have to Go Through This Alone
My mission as a counsellor is simple: to help men who feel overwhelmed, anxious, or stuck during midlife find support, understanding, and renewed purpose. With empathy, lived experience, and professional guidance, we can work together to make this chapter one of growth, not despair.
If you’re experiencing a Midlife Crisis and need someone to talk to, reach out. You don’t have to navigate this on your own.